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🍨 THE UNTOLD CHAPTER begins with an emotional healing journey that many have yet to discover.

Welcome, my beautiful reader to The Untold Truth Chapter


🌅 A Fresh Start That Didn’t Ask for Permission

Good morning, my beautiful readers. It’s been a minute, but here we are standing at the edge of something new. February 1st, 2026. A fresh start that didn’t wait for me to feel ready. When I tell you this year already feels different, I mean that deeply. January came in strong, almost surprising me, especially when school told me I was graduating earlier than I expected. I truly thought November was my finish line, but instead they told me May 23rd. Early. Just like that.

It felt good really good but it also made me pause. I found myself asking, What do you do after the finish line moves closer? I’m still figuring that part out. Graduation feels exciting, but it also feels like a quiet responsibility to decide what’s next. I don’t have all the answers yet, and I’m learning to be okay with that.


🌑 Remembering the Dark While Walking Toward the Light

2025 was one of the darkest seasons of my life. I missed so much time time with myself, time with my husband, time with my kids. I was present physically but absent emotionally, just trying to survive. This year feels different, not because life magically changed, but because I did. I stopped saying I wanted things to change and started moving differently, even when it felt uncomfortable.

These first weeks of the year have been about sitting still long enough to hear myself again. Learning my body. Learning my emotions. Learning who I am now not who I used to be. Becoming a wife and a mother at the same time is heavy, layered work, and nobody really prepares you for how much of yourself you have to rediscover in the process.


🏡 Homeschooling Again, But This Time With Support

I took on homeschooling my kids again, thinking it would be easy. It wasn’t. The transition was harder than I expected, and there were moments I questioned myself. But this time is different from the first time I homeschooled them. Back then, I had no help. This time, I have my husband. I’m not carrying everything alone, and that alone makes a difference.

February won’t be an ordinary month. I had to let go of people who were no longer good for my spirit. That wasn’t easy, but I know God led me there. Every release made space for peace. Every goodbye made room for growth.


💗 Falling in Love With Myself for the First Time

One of the biggest revelations I’ve had this year is realizing that I fell in love with myself. Not in a loud, performative way but in a quiet, nurturing way. I’ve questioned love my whole life, including my own worthiness of it. I questioned other people’s love, too. But loving myself? That was unfamiliar territory.

Now, when I look in the mirror, I see dark marks on my face. I see change. I see time. And still I feel beautiful. I started treating myself the way I’ve always treated others. I nurture myself. I speak gently to myself. I show up for myself. And it feels good better than I imagined.


💇🏾‍♀️ Learning What Self-Care Really Means

For the first time in my life, I went to a Black hair braider who truly understood my hair. She washed it slowly, carefully. She did a hot oil treatment something I had never experienced before and when she massaged my scalp, I almost fell asleep. If you know me, you know that never happens.

She trimmed my ends, twisted my hair, and explained what my hair needed instead of rushing through the process. Sitting in that chair, I realized that self-care isn’t just bubble baths or quick fixes. It’s allowing yourself to be taken care of without guilt. I paid her, tipped her, and told her I’d be back with my daughter next time. That moment alone reminded me that I deserve care, too.


🏨 A Getaway That Taught Me Something New

My husband and I stayed at a hotel our first real time away from the house without the kids. I missed them more than I expected, and that surprised me. Marriage is beautiful, but it’s different. Not bad just different. I had to sit with the truth that my life has shifted, and some things won’t look the same anymore.

We went out to eat, went bowling, played pool, and even went swimming. I got my hair wet and was annoyed for a second but I still laughed. Watching my husband play pool, learning something new together, reminded me that building memories doesn’t always look like what you imagined. Sometimes growth feels awkward before it feels natural.

That getaway taught me that joy doesn’t have to be perfect to be real.


🎓 Graduating Early and Learning to Sit With the Moment

Graduating early still hasn’t fully hit me yet. Just like marriage didn’t fully hit me at first either. I’m excited, but I’m also realistic. I’m already asking myself, What’s next? I want to keep learning. I want to keep growing. I want to use my time intentionally.

I ordered my cap and gown. I plan to take my professional pictures. And I think when the date gets closer, it will finally sink in. Until then, I’m allowing myself to feel proud even if the excitement comes in waves.


✨ Motivation:

You don’t need clarity to keep moving. Sometimes growth looks like showing up anyway, trusting that God will reveal the next step when the time is right.

✨ Bible Verse:

“Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.” — Philippians 1:6


🌱 What I Learned

I learned that healing is quiet, love is intentional, and growth doesn’t rush. Falling in love with myself has been the foundation for every other blessing.


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